Domestic Abuse Knows No Holiday

"Domestic violence doesn’t take a holiday. Domestic violence is an every-day, round-the-clock occurrence that may actually increase during the holidays – a time focused on families, relationships, joy and celebration." -Kathleen Krenek

As I was preparing to write my message, something brought the subject of domestic abuse to mind. Honestly, the original topic was about something completely different. But, this feeling, or urge was strong enough to make me put aside what I was working on, and focus my energy here. God points us in the direction that He wants us to go!

The holidays are usually the best time of the year. However, for victims of domestic violence (women and men) it can also be a grim and frightening time. It's causes can be attributed to such things such as: unrealistic expectations, financial pressures, and the increased consumption of alcohol. All of which can raise stress levels, which in turn can contribute to incidents of domestic violence.

Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior based on the use of power and control of one person over another. Abusers use different ways to exercise their power and control; it may take the form of physical, verbal or emotional, economical and sexual abuse. Additionally, a person of any age, gender, socio-economic class, education level, or religion can be affected by domestic violence.

There is some good news, though. domestic violence is learned behavior, meaning it is neiher inherited, nor genetic. And, since it is a learned behavior, it can be unlearned or changed. Many of you might know someone who is experiencing domestic violence; perhaps even yourself.

No matter what, you need to assure them they do not deserve such abuse. Let them know you're concerned foremost about the safety of both them, and their children. And, please tell them that they have a right to be safe.

Of equal importance, don't assume that abusers have no other needs except to stop their behavior. Keep in mind that there are probably unresolved issues that have caused them to become abusive. Yet, if an abuser is willing to admit his or her responsibility and wants help, there is hope. In any case, seek professional help with any form of domestic abuse (see resources in sidebar).

Scripture: Psalm 10:17-18; Colossians 3:19; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7; Matthew 15:18-20; John 13:34

Prayer: Gracious God, you created us in your image and breathed life into us. A life you want us to live abundantly. We ask you to free those living with abuse physically, mentally or spiritually, from their oppression, so that they may walk in peace and enjoy a life full of your blessings. In Jesus’ name. Amen

May God bless you!

Jorja